Anger is not always a problem. Used wisely, it can communicate strength and competence. However, dysfunctional patterns of anger are often at the core of out of control, damaging habits and broken relationships. Anger can be the root of marital issues, failure to perform at work, and chronic isolation.
When does anger become a “trap” and begin to sabotage life? Proverbs 29:11 says, “A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.” Temper tantrums, tirades, verbal arguments or fights, physical aggression toward people, property, and pets can all be signs of destructive anger. Unfortunately, these types of episodes are usually aimed at those we care about most.
Look Familiar?
Anger can be experienced on different levels. Irritation is a mild form. As anger grows it moves to indignation, a feeling that is provoked by a response to perceived threat or injustice. As mentioned above, these patterns in our life, if managed, can be appropriate and healthy.
“He who is slow to anger
is better than the mighty,
and he who rules his spirit,
than he who captures a city.”’
Proverbs 16:32
Anger can also be experienced in the form of wrath, fury, rage, and hostility. At these levels we do regrettable things like seek revenge. Fury and rage can lead to loss of control in what we say or do. Often, the memories of these events can be devastating. Success in business, school, or home life can be ruined by a person who loses a handle on his or her temper. Anger in the form of hostility, turns an emotion into personal venom. At this level, it can break relationships or cause legal problems and can drive us to decisions we regret for a lifetime.
Are there times you regret your anger?
Unresolved anger can have many other consequences. Longstanding anger patterns can grow into bitterness. This type of anger fills our lives with jealousy, dissension, and clouds our daily decisions. Anger also leads to isolation as it creates “walls of hurt.” Finally, anger places a physical burden on our bodies and can lead to serious health problems. Headaches, sleep disruption, and digestive problems can be caused by anger issues. Chronic health problems like high blood pressure and heart damage can also be a result of anger management issues.
God’s word instructs us to, “see to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled (Hebrews 12:15).” Anger can become a trap for many. This week reflect on the types of anger discussed above. What role does this emotion play in your life? Agree to be brutally honest, whatever the fact may be.
Know that if you struggle with anger or bitterness, God can redeem brokenness and heal your hurt and damaged relationships. Seek God today in prayer, find help in a local church, and reach out for counseling and accountability. Christian Counseling Associates provides help for those who struggle with anger management issues. In our locations from Erie to Pittsburgh, Johnstown to Beaver Falls, and in a location near you, we have faithful experts available to help. If you or a loved one struggle with anger, call us today at 724-396-1510 or visit our website at ccawpa.com.
Join us next week, as we will continue this series on anger, and provide some tools and techniques to seek freedom from the “anger trap.”
